Cite this journal as: Eden, S. W. (2018). Is he going to be a selfish husband? Retrieved from http://sw-eden.net
I had had a friend. I do not want to name him here. So, I would like to give him a nickname, Fred, to call him in this post.
Fred is one of a few faculty members who is good-looking and also has a good-looking girlfriend. Some think that he is very genius. For me, it is like a stereotype, that if he is good-looking and always wear a formal cloth, everyone will think that he is responsible and intelligent.
I did not think like others since the first time I met this guy. In my life, I meet many people with this appearance, but have no responsibility. I did not say that I prejudiced him, but I say that I just waited to see his actual behaviors.
Once, he asked me for the first 30 minutes of my class for his friends from a TV show to shoot a footage in my class. 30 minutes is okay for me to give him. And it is a good thing if my students could be in a show. Therefore, I allow his friends to shoot the footage in my class.
My class hour is from 4:00 PM to 7:00 PM. You know what? His friends could get the camera ready in the first 30 minutes. Many crews just begin to download the files to put into the computer (as a part of the show, they need to have a powerpoint slide). They finished everything at 6:00 PM. This means, he asked me for half an hour, but they took me 2 hours.
It is worse than that. The time during the process got slower than the expectation, no one walked to inform me what actually happened. I was waiting in the teacher room, and I have to keep walking to the class to see if they finished their job. And after 2 hours that they just finish their job, no crews walked to inform me that I could begin my class. It was my own students who walk to me and tell me that I could go into the class then.
My students felt tired and wanted to go home instead of keep learning for another hour. I gave them a short class, so they could go. Those crew from the TV shows did not say any “thanks” to me, did not inform me when they had gone, and did not give anything to my students. They just came to take the advantage from us. They just wanted a footage with students in the class.
I told the guy, the good-looking faculty member, what happened. He did not care, I know. He just said sorry, but I could see his face. He was not actually sorry, because he was laughing and smiling.
It is worse than that. The officer of my faculty walked to the classroom, and he did not see me in the classroom at my hours. He just checked that I did not come to teach. It is true of him, but it is not totally my fault. My fault is that I said, okay, at the first time to that guy.
Next 4-5 months, that guy I hate got married. I guess most people in the same program went to his wedding ceremony. I did not go there. I cannot forgive. I hope he is gone, gone from my life.
A good thing that I did not go to his wedding ceremony is that he did not talk to me again after the day. He may think that I am selfish that I did not go there, but in fact, he is one of the most selfish guys I have ever met.